"The more you depend on forces outside yourself, the more you are dominated by them."
This puts me in mind of something that we all do. I have never encountered anyone who didn't do this. What is "this"? It is waiting for everything to be just right before you have a go at something. You know what I am talking about. All the good stuff has to wait while you get everything aligned properly. The "Oh, I am going back to school, take art classes, travel, etcetera, etcetera, etcetera.........when the kids get out of school, when I am married, when I am retired, when I have more money. Get the drift? Been there haven't you? Maybe, you're even still there. And it doesn't have to be just one thing, in fact, when we do it we usually have a case of the multiples. If, as John Lennon said, "Life is what happens while you're living it" why aren't we doing these things that will make our hearts sing? There is never, ever going to enough time, money, or whatever. We just need to have a go anyway. OK, maybe you can't take that trip to Italy you have always wanted. Do something related. Learn to cook some really mean Pasta, learn to speak Italian, visit a museum or gallery that carries Italian artwork. Do you see where I am going with this? While you are busy DOING something that you care about, the Universe just might find a way for you to get plane tickets to Tuscany. And, just think, you'll know just what to eat and how to order it when you get there.
If you want to go back to school now is the time to do it. There is an unprecedented amount of financial aid out there. Got a computer, take on-line classes. That way you can keep your day job, while you learn.
Want to learn a new skill or take up a new hobby but the kids are still at home. I used to live in a neighborhood where us gals with small children took turns babysitting so that we could each have a Mommy Day off a few times a month. Or if the kids are old enough, get them involved, too. I mean, the family that plays together really does stay together. A few years ago, my oldest daughter and I (and I am no Spring Chicken, wait....I am getting a visual! LOL) took up Middle Eastern dancing together. It was a blast and something we will always share and made my gimpy hip work better.
So, stop with the excuses (I am most definitely talking to myself here, too) and do something. DO something that puts a smile on your face and a giggle in your heart. DO something that makes your feet dance or your mind expand. It is all up to you. Oh, and by the way, I give you permission to leave the dishes in the sink.
I am trying to apply some of these things to my 'time off' ;)
ReplyDeleteAt the age of 45, a dear friend got tired of hearing me say "When I retire, I'm going to go back to school." She politely - but firmly - got me to take the tests -- even though I knew I couldn't do school AND hold down a full-time job.
ReplyDeleteNot only did I do that, but I excelled at it, maintaining a 3.8 GPA and managing the advertising department of a local retail operation. I graduated (5 years later) summa cum laude in English.
Now at 51, I'm a graduate student at UNM working on an MFA in Creative Fiction (but this story's true!) and teaching freshman composition for a paycheck, health care, and free tuition.
It can be done. Don't put it off!